Sunday, April 12, 2009

No Matter What It Is, The First Wife Is Always The Best

Pretty controversial, isn't it?

If only all the second wives came visited my blog today, they are so going to kill me for this statement.

However, this is only my personal opinion based on my own observation in our society.

I watched this one entertainment show yesterday. They interviewed this one artist who is currently very sick. He can hardly move, speak or do anything without anybody's help.

In general, he's like a baby now. He has to wear diapers to excrete, someone has to bathe him and he cannot feed himself anymore.

It is a sad thing to watch him in that condition because he was one an enthusiastic, talented artist who may be old on the outside but always young at heart.

Apparently, he has two wives.

However, now, when he's in his worst condition, only the first wife is taking care of him. The second wife has gone missing in action. The last time the second wife visited him was months ago.

Please correct me if I'm wrong, but during his healthy years, he stayed with the second wife. And now, how ironic, when he can't move, speak and excrete normally, he stays with the first wife. The first wife is the person who feeds him, helps him changing his diapers and the one who helps him to move around. Meanwhile the first wife's children are the one who give him shower.

Where is the second wife I wonder?

And in general, if we look closely, it is the first wife who does a lot of sacrifices for their husbands. They let their husbands get the second wives would be the first sacrifice. It is never easy for women to share their loved ones with others.

It's like guys with their super hot girlfriends. No matter where you go, your girlfriend is always the centre of attraction to all the men out there. You feel threatened and insecured. And that is when you would normally act like a lunatic and somehow like a dictator. Hehe.

Anyhow, first, you let your husband get married to another woman. Fine. But here comes the second one, the other wife. Do you think you can be good friends with her? Maybe, if you're lucky. If you're extra lucky, maybe you can bully her but if you're the unfortunate one, you'll be under her. That happens when your husband is always on her side and starts spending most nights with her. What happen to your love life? The spark has gone and it's like high school again, mean girls, Queen Bee, blablabla.

Third, kids. You have to give extra care to your kids since your kids might be emotionally hurt with your husband's act and of course, since your husband is less available to be there with you, watching them growing up. If you don't give what the kids need, they may end up becoming rebellious and probably they'll become anti-men?? And worse, if the second wife's kids and your kids are enemies.

Forth, when your husband is sick and he eventually realised that you're the one. It is nice that he finally sees you as the nobel one but only when he falls from the ladder?? That's not cool.

And of course, there's the fifth, sixth and the number goes on but what I'm saying is that, dear husbands out there, don't you ever neglect your first wife because they may be the one who is going through thick and thin with you.

They're the first you fell terribly in love with, the one who made you crazy, head over heels when you first saw her, the first whom you've vowed to be with for the rest of your life and the first who went through all the pain in delivering your offspring.

If you ever think of getting the second wife, I advise you to reminisce your early moments with your first wife, maybe the spark will return.

However, I'm not saying that the second wife is always bad. Sometimes, in the worst case scenario, it's the second wife who has to endure all the pain, somemore, with the first wife acting like Hitler.

Oh ya, one more thing. To all men out there, if your second lover is willing to leave her own husband for you, don't marry her. That's an early sign that leads to the unfortunate events in future.

3 comments:

N D Z said...

hi suraya
u're definitely rite...we should just stick to the one.

so the time will come when u finally know who's goin' to be by ur side no matter what occur.

plus,nice writing ;)

Your Average Mat said...

thanks for the advice. I will not neglect my first wife in the future..

hehe..

Suraya Sajoli said...

Yep, sometimes guys tend to forget all the little things that make them fall in love with their wives.

That's why they seek out for new lovers because they simply forget.

Hehe, live and die with it Mat. You wont regret it for sure ;).

Anyway, i dunno why i wrote this topic in the first place. :s